Why Being Good Isn’t Good Enough

good isn't good enough

I used to be fixated on being a  good man who understood the true value of integrity.

For instance, my morality was unwavering and invincible.

But as I lived my life, I learned that simply being good isn’t good enough.

And I realize now that my faith in the concept wasn’t a mistake.

Beliefs are something you adopt in order to deal with the issues that you are given at the time.

I did it because my life was unpredictable.

People I trusted left me out on the streets.

Toxic people who knew I had evidence of their atrocities were willing to get cops involved, pointing their finger at me as if I were the bad guy.

If you deal with toxic people you will quickly realize that they commonly portray themselves as victims. That’s hardly ever the truth.

For the longest time I was told that I was the bad guy.

I’m the bad guy, I’m the bad guy.

But I wasn’t.

I was a man of integrity. And I gave none of it away for a long time.

If you’re genuinely good person. Someone who honors honesty, doesn’t cheat, and doesn’t steal.

But you wonder why you always seem to get the short end of the stick? Then this is for you.

Here’s why being good isn’t good enough:

1) Nobody Knows What Integrity Is

When I talked to women or my friends about integrity they were amazed with these ideas. However, they didn’t really apply it.

They didn’t know what integrity was until I explained it to them. And chances are, theirs was already compromised.

The act of stopping the actions you deem wrong, after you have already committed them, is an act of repentance. Not integrity.

If people don’t act with, believe in, or even know what integrity is, then you’ll find yourself to be incredibly righteous. And incredibly lonely.

Nobody values you when they don’t know what integrity is in the first place.

They don’t understand that honesty, trust, reliability, all branch from the conception of integrity.

2) Nobody Cares

I know women who continue to go after taken men. Men who are already in a relationship, and willing to cheat on his girlfriend/wife.

These women chase after those men in hopes that he will drop his current relationship to pursue a new one with her.

Women aren’t looking for integrity.

Arguably, the only men who really care for integrity are those who have high integrity themselves.  Or people you are in strict business with.

Otherwise it’s a non-issue. If you’re cool to be around or have value to offer, nobody is going to care.

3) Nobody Deserves You

When you’re a man of integrity you have incredible standards.

That’s a fantastic thing. But hardly anyone is good enough for you.

Everybody will let you down because they have no idea what it truly means to be what you deem is a ‘good person’.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t have high standards. It’s a good way to judge people. It’s what’s separates you from them. The strong from the weak.

But if you’re doing your best being good, and people do you dirty. You’re at a loss no matter what.

Because they never deserved your best. And you never deserved their worst.

All integrity does is make you feel like you’re better than everyone else via moral superiority. Which doesn’t matter if nobody cares in the first place.

4) The World Doesn’t Make Sense

If you’re being the most moralistic, good person that you can be, then it makes no sense when the world does you wrong.

For most of my life, people have been telling me that I’m the bad guy. But they were the ones dishing out abusive tactics on me.

It destroyed my self-worth, confidence, reality, and ability to self-trust.

Why were these things happening to me?

It wasn’t until I accepted a non-truth that these unfortunate events made sense: “I am the bad guy

Bad things happen to bad people.

If I was still a good man of integrity, my world wouldn’t make any sense.

I would believe that I was never meant to have things go my way.

But now as a bad guy, at least if bad shit happens I can say that I deserved it.

At least the world makes sense.

Even if I wasn’t a bad person to begin with.

Final Checkpoint

I’m telling you guys this because life is unfair, and part of it being unfair is that bad people get away with things all the time.

You realize that ideas like karma and hell are only there to scare you from committing ‘sin’. But that’s just not reality.

It wasn’t until I read a Calvin and Hobbes comic strip-

I don’t own Calvin and Hobbes

That I made a huge realization:

The only reason to be good, is for the sake of being good.

Given the your situation, you may realize that being good for the sake of being good, just isn’t good enough.

And being good means nothing if you can’t be bad. In fact, being unable to do bad makes you weak.

So, what do you do? Well tell me, are you happy about always getting the short end of the stick?


Then do whatever you want to do. 

Get mad and howl “fuck this shit“.

Drop those fuckers who do you wrong.

Life is too short to shackle yourself to a bad situation.

So fuck what’s good and take what’s yours.

Be selfish and do what’s best for yourself.

You won’t regret it


  1. Integrity is doing the right thing for yourself because you can live with yourself after you’ve chosen the path. You choose to do no wrong to others, but you do what’s right for you. Letting go of toxic relationships is key. Those who judge can judge and there’s nothing we can do about that, nor about them. Being good is just that, being good. I love Calvin and Hobbes too.

    • I agree. Getting rid of toxic relations is key. Not everyone has the willingness to do so or the experience to tell who’s toxic. But your advice is true.

      Thanks for commenting Janie. Much appreciated.

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