There comes a point by the end of the relationship where you begin to wonder why is she being mean and disrespectful towards you. Don’t be so hard on yourself, sometimes it’s the woman’s fault for bringing about the end of a relationship. In the long-term, there are plenty of women who can’t handle relationships. Let’s begin:
There are times when a relationship has been strained for an extended period of time. She starts fights over the smallest things. She makes you feel like no matter what choice you make – whether you take lead or follow her suggestion – she will make you feel like you can’t do anything right, no matter how hard you try.
At that point of the relationship, you may already consider leaving her.
But let me fill you in on some of the logic that goes through a woman’s head when she starts getting naggy and bossy to the point that she starts becoming mentally and emotionally abusive.
How Does This Problem Start?
At first you notice that she complains about everything and she gets upset at about any choice you make. You’ll eventually get stressed out and not want to talk to her anymore because interacting with her is like walking on eggshells.
When you stop communicating with her, she starts to believe that you don’t have any feelings for her anymore. You can still love her, but it’s harder for her to believe it. Especially if you don’t say the words ‘I love you’ to her anymore.
At some point, your girlfriend starts to seriously doubt that you and her have an emotional relationship anymore.
Entitlement Is A Real Issue
An issue many women have is entitlement. They assume that you should always know when something is bothering them.
They don’t voice themselves and stand up for what they believe in. Instead, they believe you should be able to read their minds.
As these unspoken issues accumulate, she falls out of love with you. She waits until she feels nothing.
Essentially, by keeping her mouth shut and stewing about an issue she chose not to talk about with you – she is giving herself a reason to not love you anymore.
That’s why women can do really fucked up shit when they cheat on their boyfriends or husbands.
**She needs to know that there is NO shame in her asking for what she wants. If she wants a certain affection – it is NOT you’re responsibility to automatically know what it is. If she’s ‘expecting’ you to give her a certain affection without her having to ask you, then she has entitlement issues – she’s the problem.**
Why is She Suddenly Being So Bossy and Naggy?
It’s because she wants to salvage some sort of relationship.
Now that she doesn’t feel like you two have an emotional connection anymore, she’s going to try to form a relationship built on you running errands and doing her favors.
The problem is that you may want to show her that you still love her. So you voluntarily become her errand boy.
You’re not framing it as a form of submission, but an act of love. That’s not how she’s going to see it.
Think about how dominant men tell their women what to do. The woman complies because she likes helping her man as an act of love, or ‘submission’.
The problem with this is that she loses respect for you. You’re no longer the man she used to respect. It’s over.
What Happens When You Don’t Break Up?
If she’s already laying down the law, it’s because you foolishly let her. Although you acted in the sake of ‘love’, the sad reality is that she’s made you submissive to her.
Women don’t respect submissive men. They would rather love more than they are being loved. And that’s because women respond to dominant men.
At this point in the relationship, she doesn’t love you anymore. If she doesn’t respect you, it’s because she doesn’t love you.
To love, you must accept. To accept, you must respect.
But when she no longer respects you, shit hits the fan hard. Here are some examples of her no longer respecting you:
- She publicly humiliates you in front of her friends and family
- She’s being shady with her phone around you
- You’re having nonsensical pregnancy scares
It’s when she has lost her respect for you, she will cheat on you with zero remorse. She will have no issues lying to you and hurting you. And she will deny cheating on you even when you’ve caught her red-handed.
Don’t stay with her. Dump her. If you love yourself and have any self-respect, you will leave her.
Additional Advice On Why Is She Being Mean & Disrespectful
You can’t control what another person does. It’s beyond your control, so don’t be too hard on yourself if it doesn’t work out. There are more women out there.
Make it clear to your girlfriend early on that she must voice herself and that no one can read her mind. Failure to do so is a recipe for a failed relationship.
If she’s becoming bossy, call her out. If it’s not too late, reassure her that there’s still an emotional connection between you two.
Don’t let her boss you around and don’t do favors for her in an attempt to make her happy or to prove your love for her. She rather you respect yourself, than be her submissive.
If she says she’s not happy, it’s not your fault. Her relationship expectations are too high. Happiness comes from oneself, not from anyone else. Nothing will make her happy, not even herself. She’s not mature enough for a relationship.
All in all, this is only advice. You’re going to do what you want to do. But understand that women more or less go through the same cycle of thought when it comes to the unhealthy demise of their relationships.
If any of you have anything you want to add to the comments to advise your fellow man, feel free.
But I really feel for the men who are going through these rough times, so here’s a link for you to indicate if your girlfriend or wife is completely toxic. If it’s clear that she’s absolute poison, then out of my own personal experience, I recommend you leave her.
You can’t fix or reason with her – it’s what she is.
At this point, it must feel like everything is going from you to her. But it’s time for you to realize:
- You tried your best
- Your life belongs to you
Repeat these words in your head: “What can I do to get closer to leaving her?”, and act on it.
If it’s as simple as deleting her on social media and blocking her on everything. Do it. There’s no need to talk about it. There’s no need for a formal break up. Complete disconnect. Done.
Because if you don’t, you can become psychologically and emotionally damaged. No one is worth that. Guilt and shame are her weapons. Ignore her words. Don’t let her tell you what you are, or what you feel. Or else you’ll lose yourself.
It’s one of the best things you can do for yourself